- Abusers can do nice things for people they are not abusing.
- Abusers can do nice things for people that they are abusing.
- Abusers can otherwise seem like nice, caring, supportive people when they are not actively abusing someone.
- It does not mean they’re not fucking abusers.
Very true and I speak from experience.
At Stanford there was this Professor who was a total bitch and she taught British Literature, which was cool. Except she taught only her opinions of the books and it didn’t help me as a writer. I went to school to learn new things to improve my craft, not have someone else’s opinions carved onto my forehead.
So anyway, for our final project, she asked us to write a ten page paper on why the color symbolism in Othello was so significant. I did some research and it turned out that she did her entire graduate thesis on this very subject. I was mad. This wasn’t teaching, this was boosting her ego. SO I wrote a ten page essay on why color symbolism in Othello wasn’t significant, satirizing it to the point of no return, saying that her opinion was an opinion and shouldn’t be taken seriously.
SHe failed me, needless to say. So in retaliation, I responded by baking a batch of brownies laced with weed and laxatives and delivered them myself to the professor hours before her big graduation speech. I told her that it was a peace offering, my way of apologizing and asking if I could do anything to fix my grade.
She refused to fix my grade.
In the end, she shit herself on stage.
I didn’t regret it.
This is a place where I don’t feel alone
This is a place where I feel at home
You know, the contrast here is pretty fascinating.
In the original anime, Ami overhears Usagi’s friends gossiping about her (or rather, her extreme intelligence), saying that she’s all stuck up and aloof just because she’s smarter than the rest of them (of course, we all know that this is the farthest from the truth). In Crystal, Ami instead overhears two guys talking about her absurdly high IQ and how they’ve never seen her with any friends.
In the original anime, Ami looks pissed. She’s just caught people talking shit about her behind her back and she’s not at all pleased. Crystal!Ami, however, is just so sad. Usagi’s friends were gossiping and making all sorts of unfounded assumptions (like Ami being a uppity, pretentious snob who thinks she’s better than everyone else). The boys who were talking about her, however, were telling the truth; Ami is insanely smart and, at the start of the series, she doesn’t have anyone to call her friend.
It’s no wonder why she’s offended by one and depressed by the other. She may not be a snob, but nobody likes being reminded that they’re isolated.